Greetings friends.

How are you all doing, I pray and hope that you all are doing very well in all aspects of your life.Today I will be participating in a contest organized by our follow member @steem4nigeria in this wonderful community and I promise to do my best in puting down all that is in me into the contest. ![free-photo-of-dramatic-black-and-white-romantic-conflict-scene.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmRmKbrwnWeSM5sMeiacNAVzLg9zxbAs14szpfcrMLbdpM/free-photo-of-dramatic-black-and-white-romantic-conflict-scene.jpg)[source](https://www.pexels.com/photo/dramatic-black-and-white-romantic-conflict-scene-30865220)

Based on the introduction given, define "frenemy" in your own words.

In my own way of understanding based on the introduction that was given about frenemy. Frenemy are those or that friend of mine that pretended bro be your friend when the are around you but chose the other side when you are not with them. Imagine having a friend that can't say good thing about you when he or she hears about you outside but chose to act caring whenever they are close to you.

Have you had any experience with such people who claim to be your friend, if yes, share with us?.

I have a lot of experience about people who claim to be my best friend but later end up becoming my worst enemy. One of the painful frenemy I encounter in my life was when I was in secondary school back then in 2017. It all happened when I was in SS2 I think that was on third team or so, I had a friend I care a lot about him that I can't never allow somebody to say any bad thing about him and I was always to to fight for him in his time of trouble but all this thing's I was doing was not enough for him to o pay me back in a good way but rather chose to pay me e back in a way that I will never forget in my life time. ![pexels-photo-2307562.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmRgbNJ18r9vSvT7dZRA6kHpc6AmXXvuydKXUd4HD5YDio/pexels-photo-2307562.jpg)[source](https://www.pexels.com/photo/boy-riding-on-back-of-bicycle-2307562) It all happened on one faithful day we had a little argument which I see it as a normal thing between friends but it turn out to be an argument that will end our relationship forever because he chose to go around blackmailing my name to some of the students in our school telling them what I haven't in my thoughts of and even when I confronted him to ask him what I have done that he has to be saying all those things against me, he had the mine to tell me that he was waiting for an opportunity like this to show me who is he and some of the people he has being telling them that rubbish had to believe because it was from somebody that was close to me ( my friend) that was telling them and had no other option than to report him to the school authority where normal discipline was carry on.

How can one guard ourselves against frenemies early enough before they harm us.

Nowadays who you call your friend is worster than somebody that you see him as your enemy because your enemy will be a little bit afraid to harm you because people are going to say because it is his enemy that why is doing that to him but your friend will do with the mindset that people are going to say that it be his friend that is doing it. So in this life it so hard to know who to call a friend and the only for you to do so that you don't falls victim of frenemy is setting your limits between your and the person that is claiming to be your friend, limit what comes out of your mouth so that you don't victim when the is problem between the two of you and always know when to leave when visited to main your integrated. ![pexels-photo-1019771.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmNmQMGyY7qr96AzHFUXoSqJYKhoREWiEbectHVKH3qN4C/pexels-photo-1019771.jpg)[source](https://www.pexels.com/photo/men-s-black-denim-pants-1019771)

Who is a true friend and how can you identify one?

I don't think that is such thing like truth again in this world again because a truth friend was suppose to be someone you share your secret to and they will take it to their grave, but in today life if you dare tell someone your secret you are done cause they whole world will hear about it. So in this life no is nothing like real friend again because something can happen that change somebody from being your friend to your enemy and something can also happens that will change your enemy to become your friend too. So play around with people that are close to you and also set a limit between the two of you so that can't be betray when anything come up between the two of you. Thank you so much for going through my blog I really appreciate you all 💞. I will like to invite @goodybest @bossj23 and @okere-blessing To join this contest too.